Woman Refuses to Attend Sister’s Child Free Wedding Because Her ‘Kids Were Excluded'

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Eleonora Bader
Nov 27, 2023 1:00 PM EST

This woman believed she was the main character in her sister's wedding, but before I say more, let me relay the juicy details of the story. In typical family drama fashion, a Reddit user made an AITA post, asking whether or not she had been wrong in not attending her sister's wedding. The reason she did not want to go was simple: Her sister wanted a child-free wedding, and OP disapproved, thinking that her sister was being selfish (I mean, it's her wedding, so isn't that the one day she's allowed to be selfish?). 

Sometimes parents want a timeout, a break, one night to themselves to enjoy without keeping an eye out on their children who will most likely be running around, getting themselves into trouble. OP did not want to call a babysitter… She wanted to bring her kids. So, naturally, chaos ensued, which you can read about below. After you are finished, check out these hysterical nurse memes for worn-out medical professionals working the night shift.

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  • 01
    I was not agreeable to that. I told her that while I respect her choice to not have children, I cannot attend her wedding when she's clearly said "Do not bring your kids" as that practically sounds like an insult. I mentioned that I do not want to do so when she clearly dislikes my children enough to want them to be present there. I have a pair of twins, a boy and a girl, aged 11. She did not take it well. She began to yell at me by saying that she wants everyone to be present there and said thi
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  • 02
    AITA for refusing to attend my sister's wedding because she wanted it to be child free?
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  • 03
    My (31) sister Laura (29 F) was getting married. As she's child-free, she informed all of us that she does not want any kids/children at her wedding. My other siblings were fine with it, as they either did not have kids (were child-free themselves) or they agreed to drop them off at home.
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  • 04
    She had informed us by saying that she and her boyfriend David wanted to get married and also set the date, but later mentioned that she wanted it to be child-free so that no one would bring them.
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  • 05
    I was not agreeable to that. I told her that while I respect her choice to not have children, I cannot attend her wedding when she's clearly said "Do not bring your kids" as that practically sounds like an insult. I mentioned that I do not want to do so when she clearly dislikes my children enough to
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  • 06
    want them to be present there. I have a pair of twins, a boy and a girl, aged 11. She did not take it well. She began to yell at me by saying that she wants everyone to be present there and said things like "We have not had any issues before, and it's ridiculous of you to pull something
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  • 07
    like this", etc. But I did not back down and said that I do not want to argue. I said "Look, if you want it to be child-free, I do not want to attend. Your option is to make do with the others now." She was protesting, but in the end she got mad enough and is not talking to me now. My parents are
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  • 08
    calling me names as well by saying that I should have attended it. The wedding's over and I did not go there. But everyone's saying that I should have respected her wishes, which made me think that I did something wrong. AITA?
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  • 09
    EDIT: It was not just my children, but she does hate them anyway. She's hardly ever seen them ever since they were born. So when I said "it sounded like an insult" it was accurate because she does dislike them although she is against all children. She had also
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  • 10
    once called them "crotch goblins" on one of the rare occasions that they did met. Okay, so another edit as people seem to be accusing me of "forcing" them into it. I never did. I respect her choice. I never asked her to include them or ask her to hold it in a child-free manner. I only
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    said I do not want to attend as it's child-free and as she hates my kids (which is true as she's called them names like "c h goblins", among others). She had also made the invite in front of my kids by asking them to be excluded.
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  • 12
    zeeelfprince 20 hr. ago. edited 13 hr. ago YTA An invitation is not a summons. She invited you to her wedding, under the condition that she did not want children present.
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  • 13
    You did not find those conditions agreeable. Fair enough. That's your right. What makes you the AH is when, instead of politely declining the invitation, you made HER wedding about YOU, and what YOU wanted.
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  • 14
    Your kids are yours. Your wishes, and what you want, are exactly that. YOUR wishes. You are NOT the main character at someone else's wedding.
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  • 15
    Stop pretending that everyone else actually cares about whether your kids follow you everywhere. They don't. The only one who cares whether your kids are included, is YOU, and by insisting on your kids being included in things they aren't
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  • 16
    welcome at, or things that aren't child friendly, you are fostering resentment in your family. Please read the room.
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  • 17
    Eta, the original post is different than the one people are seeing at the top of the screen, FYI to everyone, since my comment is top comment I made my judgment based on the clearly manipulative statement that was included in the post
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  • 18
    when it was first posted "you clearly dislike my kids, or they would be invited to your wedding, too" When this manipulation didn't work, op declined the invitation THAT is why I said op was making the wedding about her
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  • 19
    I realize now why people are asking Edited again THE ORIGINAL POST SHOULD STILL BE VISIBLE
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